It’s been an emotional week for a lot of people, me included, with the passing of Robin Williams. I loved his work, some of his films are genius of the highest order. If you’ve never watched Good Morning Vietnam, get involved, it’s a spectacular piece of work and all the more remarkable, given how much of the dialogue is off script and spontaneous.
Many of us will know how tough it is to watch on whilst someone close to us is struggling with their own demons. We all have things going on that people will not understand unless we tell them but that can be so difficult. Let’s face it:
“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
“When you’re surrounded by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you’re by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don’t feel like you can trust anyone or talk to anybody, you feel like you’re really alone.”
“Listen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don’t believe it. Seek out the memories depression takes away and project them into the future. Be brave; be strong; take your pills. Exercise because it’s good for you even if every step weighs a thousand pounds. Eat when food itself disgusts you. Reason with yourself when you have lost your reason.”
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.
Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.”
All of these words are important. Some of you will never suffer from depression and you are the lucky ones. Unfortunately, there will be people close to us who do, and it’s heartbreaking to look on and feel like you can’t help someone that you love or are close to. It’s a difficult illness to understand and no one should hold themselves in reproach. It’s been said that sometimes before it gets better, the darkness gets bigger.
Sometimes it can feel like you’re fighting a battle on your own. Surround yourself with people who love and care for you and you’ll never be alone.
Undress your soul, show them your vigour.