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Gossip. Often defined as “casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true.”

Isn’t it just something that some people use to distract other people who have nothing better to do than feeling jealous of a few or a lot of us? Maybe it’s insecurity on their part? Insecure people can be envious of you and your life, because they’re not happy about what they have going on in their own life. Often those people that criticise you, your life and the decisions that you make, are the same people who have no idea what you’ve suffered through, to get to where you are today.

Some of us will waste our precious years with small talk. It’s sad but most of us understand it probably, at least on some level.

Gossiping is far from nice and jealousy is a horrible trait. If someone tells you something, you can choose to believe it and that’s fine, it’s your choice. The thing is, you can’t always believe everything that you hear.

Is there any point in wasting your time with words though, if people only believe what they want to believe or hear what they want to hear? There is no point fighting a fight that can’t be fought, it’s a waste of time and energy. It’s ironic though. If you let people speak to you, you’ve almost granted them permission to talk to you. No such permission is needed though if they decide to talk about you.

Isn’t it sad and a little bit silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up as a human being? Shouldn’t a part of every day be about listening to your conscience though? As long as your conscience is clear. Be good, be kind, be nice. People will always say what they like, trying to stop them gossiping is like trying to drink coffee with a fork.

It’s intrinsic in most of us though to trust people, to want to trust people. All you want to do is look out for the people who look out for you. Pretty simple, right? So, you should stop giving time to those people with more faces than Big Ben. Who wants to have a relationship with someone like that? Ninety nine times out of a hundred, if someone is telling you stuff about another person, they’re going to tell your business to other people. You shouldn’t be taken in, if someone is going to gossip to you, they’ll damn sure gossip about you. Someone who smiles with you, can sometimes frown about you too much behind your back and you might never know. We could blame it all on human nature.

How much better would life be if everyone shied away from gossip? Let today or tomorrow be the day that you speak of only the good things that you know of the other people in your life. It doesn’t sound too hard, does it?

You should never judge someone’s character based on the words of someone who is speaking about them behind their back. What someone says about you behind your back, says a lot about them. Isn’t it better to examine the words said to you from the person who is quick to share a story with you? Stories are good but don’t you want to listen to the right storyteller in your life? How could it hurt to be less curious about people, and more curious about everything else that you want to know more about?

The worst thing about talk is that there’s no way to put it to bed. Everyone believes what they want to believe. Hopefully, the most important people in your life will see through the nonsense and instantly know what the truth is. You keep those people around, don’t you?

Some people are so intent on talking about other people’s failures and mistakes that you could almost swear they are talking about themselves. Fucking idiots.

You’re always told to never talk ill of the dead, but we seem to have zero problem at all doing the same with the living. Gossip and rumours are like germs. Spread them enough and people get contaminated.

Take lightly what you hear about people. If you hear something bad about someone that you know, why not sit down and have an actual conversation with them? Drop them a call, an email or a text. Isn’t it always better to know the facts? Doesn’t gossip wound your heart almost as much of that as the person that you’re speaking about?

There is a price to pay with everyone that you choose to have in your life. Don’t you just need to work out what that price is?

It’s stupid to forget about your own faults when the person you gossip about is made to think of their own, by the words you speak. If you’ve been a victim of it, hopefully that person knows what they did and they regret it.

Two ears, one mouth. We talk too much.

@TheSamMcLeod

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