Exhale.

How we view ourselves is different from how others view us, isn’t it? We all live in a world where everyone likes what they like. Different food, different hobbies, different people, just how it should be.

Take good looking people for example. Does it matter how physically attractive someone is, if they don’t appreciate your personality? Everyone might think differently, because what you might find to be attractive is different from what someone else will find to be attractive. Also, your personality can make you more or less likeable, can’t it? Your personality, your outlook on life, your sense of humour are a massive part of what attracts someone to you. Isn’t compatibility based on how you and your partner think about each other are as a human being?

There are so many girls that are out of my league, no question. When you tell yourself that someone is out of your league, you begin believing it, don’t you? You ask someone out for dinner or drinks and they say no. It sucks. When someone turns us down, it’s always because of self doubt. We think that we’re not good enough in any facet of our life to hold onto this person’s attention. Maybe we’re not attractive enough.

Even when the situation is one that we don’t think we can control, don’t we all put people into a category? Too pretty. Too handsome. Not pretty enough. Not handsome enough. It’s incredibly judgemental but haven’t all of us seen two people together as a couple and wondered, “How the hell did they end up together?” If we think that way, aren’t we all contributing to a problem in life that we really don’t need? Who decides who is out of your league? Just you, right? As well as everyone else perhaps?

Doesn’t it all boil down to the fact that a lot of us think that physical beauty is the most important thing when we look for someone new? Are we all that predictable? Hopefully not. Aren’t we hurting our own self-perception though when we think that way? It’s hard to be vulnerable with anyone, especially if you think that someone will reject you. If you give into that fear, aren’t you actually missing out on some really great experiences. You’ll never know.

Before you even decide who is in your league or not, don’t you evaluate yourself? The mirror is an unforgiving mistress. Am I a six out of ten? Maybe a seven? A four? Who fucking knows if you don’t? What if someone else thinks that you’re a nine? Will I even give them the chance to tell me? We’re our own worst critic, and with that, comes self doubt. When we’re insecure, our self-esteem goes through the floor. When we think like that, how shit would it be if the person you liked, decided to like you back and then you thought that you weren’t a match because you thought that they were better than you? Don’t you trust yourself to have an interest in someone with similar qualities to yourself? It’s tough though.

Don’t we need to stop forming daft opinions based on how beautiful someone’s eyes are, how much the shape of their lips make us smile, how much their eyes sparkle when we look at them? No, would probably be the right answer, but all of those things are still important though, aren’t they?

The thing is, not everyone is like you or me. We all have a different idea about who we want as our significant other. Perhaps the point is that someone’s looks shouldn’t hold any more value than what their personality does. Their mind is more important than how they look or how their body is surely?

Shouldn’t we all stop buying into ideas about who we should see and about who should be interested in wanting to be with us? Remind yourself of this as regularly as you can. Also, remind yourself that no one is out of your league either.

At first, I thought people who were incredibly attractive were out of my league. You’d think once I realised that not everything is about looks, my thoughts wouldn’t be as shallow. It’s not that transparent though. I believed that if someone was smarter than me, or funnier than me, that they too were out of my league. Needless to say, I was wrong.

Aren’t the thoughts of our relationship goals being upset, by knowing that the other person is hotter, and being far more attractive than we are? Intimacy is traded for vulnerability. Feelings can go and fuck themselves at times.

Ironically, personality is such a big factor, so knocking back a person because of how they look could make you lose out on a person who could be great for you, if you just got to know them. On the flip side they might be totally wrong for you. How do you know until you try though?

No risk, no reward, right? If you like someone, you might as well try. Rejection? A definite possibility. Thing is though, you also might find that someone that you never thought would find you attractive actually likes you a lot. You need to ask though, or you need to answer the question if it ever comes. Have some courage.

She asked me to go for dinner. I haven’t said yes or no yet, I’m conflicted. She’s far too pretty and I’m average at best. She’s cute, she’s hilarious and she’s so self aware, how the hell am I ever going to match up to her? She’s out of my league.

We’re not out of touch but are we out of time?

@TheSamMcLeod

Everybody dies but not everybody lives.

Decisions, decisions. Buy ice cream or not? Pretty easy. Have a beer tonight or not? Again, not too difficult to choose. How about moving across the world to be with someone? How about deciding to marry someone? How about deciding to have children with someone? Some decisions are more important than others, aren’t they?

Isn’t the rule that whatever seems to be a massive and potentially life-changing decision, the less it seems like a decision at all? Perhaps the worst part of it is that other people can make life-changing decisions for you. Just life, I guess.

Is it easier if you ask yourself the question? If you’re going to though, you need to trust that you’ll be able do something with the answers, don’t you?

Maybe someone broke up with you, maybe you were the one who ended it. Still tough either way. Is it true that sometimes we need to be absolutely heartbroken by something, before we finally understand how bad it was for us? How about how good things might become?

Sometimes, something horrible in your life can occur in a split second that changes your life forever. You didn’t see it coming, how were you possibly to know?

The thing is that no matter how much planning you do, one tiny mis-step, one moment of a lack of concentration can end it all in an instant. Life, right?

You can plod through your life with nothing changing from one day, one week, one month, to the next. It doesn’t really matter how much you ask for something to shake you up, don’t you need to take control of it yourself?

Your world has changed. No one else might know anything about it but all of a sudden, your next heartbeat will be different to the last one. Deep breaths.

So what do you do now? You want things to be real, don’t you? Not for them just to be an idea that you have. How about a plan? How about deciding to do everything that you’ve ever wanted to do? A bucket list?

Bucket lists are supposed to be about doing things you’ve always dreamt about, not about making the wrong things in your life right.

Everyone surely has a path to follow that’s important to each of us. It’ll be different for every single one of us, of course, but isn’t it important to find that one reason to live and to appreciate the life that you have? It could be anything. What would be on your list?

Imagine going through the whole of your lifetime without laughter. How about laughing every day? Simple wishes.

It’s cheesy but don’t you need to seize the day before the sun sets every night? You’ll need to take a deep breath and almost take a blind leap of faith. Scary as shit. Let go of what is worthless, invest your time in the things that you want to do and the people that you care about. Everything important to you is precious, isn’t it? Holding them close because they won’t be here forever. The people as well as the moments.

Again, so what do you do? Dream a new dream, set another goal? Tomorrow, smile at a stranger and mean it. Fuck it, do it today.

If your dreams don’t scare you, are they big enough?

If things aren’t making sense or adding up in your life, isn’t it time to start subtracting? Is it true, is it helpful, is it inspiring, is it kind, is it necessary? If you answered yes to all five questions, then you know what to do. Everything that you’ve ever wanted. It might not always be easy but fuck, won’t it always be worth it? Make a list. I’ve just done it. Shouldn’t you be excited to try and give yourself everything that you’ve ever wanted in your life? Wise people will tell you that no one ever gets everything that they want, and whilst that’s a beautiful thing, isn’t it worth trying for all of those things?

Doing the things you love is like a good marriage. Once you get into it, it’s difficult to get out of and why the hell would you want to?

You let your success make your noise, don’t you? Maybe you will, maybe you won’t, worth a try at least. Maybe the little things you do in your life will become big things when you look back on them.

How about travel? Doesn’t it force you to trust strangers and to lose sight of everything that you thought you knew? You are constantly out of your comfort zone. You’re not au fait with everything in your life any more. All of your journeys will have secret destinations, won’t they?

Whether it’s travel related or not, you’ll have no idea where to leave from and and no clue about where you’ll end up going. Pretty cool.

Make a list of the things that you want to do and start ticking them off. No, you’re not lucky, you’re blessed.

@TheSamMcLeod

Say something.

Aren’t the regrets in your life the things you haven’t done, rather than the things you have? Those lost opportunities, those lost possibilities, the feelings that you might never get back. Those moments, when you lose them, can they be found again? They’re gone forever. Aren’t they? Hopefully not. Will we ever know though?

The chances are that if you ask people what they’ve always wanted to do, the most likely response is that they haven’t done it. Me included. Sad in a way, almost heartbreaking for all of us.

We pray for opportunities or chances, we seek out opportunities and we yearn for the slightest chance of something that we want. The good news is that we’ll meet opportunities in every day that we spend on this planet. The bad news is that we miss a lot of them, only to come to a later realisation that we fucked it or them up. Isn’t an opportunity like a bus or a train on the move? Once it’s doors have closed, it’s gone. Another one will come along but will it carry better opportunities? A sliding doors moment, right? Too often, we might miss out on a chance of something because we were too busy or we were too distracted. Maybe we were just shit scared of asking a question and being rejected. Who can say, perhaps we just missed those chances tapping us on our respective shoulders. Excuses will always be there for you, opportunities might not be.

Can you ever undo it, ever unlive it, or relive it all? Why not take the plunge? Say something. Maybe you could have had what you wanted. You’d be silly to not ask the question, wouldn’t you? Don’t miss all of those opportunities along the way to do what you wanted to do because you didn’t have the confidence to tell yourself. Say something?

Some people say that it’s not what happens in your life that matters, it’s what you think happened. Just bullshit or is it true? It can be quite possible that the most important thing to happen in your life will be something that didn’t actually take place. Make sense or not? Maybe you missed the opportunity to make it happen. You wanted it to but you didn’t follow through.

Maybe all, maybe just some of us go through life disappointed in ourselves. Do we all keep a memory of that one moment when we missed out on someone or something?

It was too easy to start rushing towards all of the excitement at a million miles an hour. I should have taken the chance but I didn’t.

It was a road that we didn’t take, towards a door that we never opened. Correction, a road that I didn’t take, towards a door that I never opened. We chatted. We flirted. We joked and we touched each other in a way that people who like each other do. Bumping shoulders, gentles nudges in the ribs, playful rubs of each other’s backs. We shared stories of our travels, tales of your life in Zurich and mine in Sydney and Scotland. New York featured a lot. My favourite city in the world. What are the chances of bumping into you when the place has over 8.5m people living there?

It hits me that I’ve lost you, although I never really had you. Will you now rank among the things I’ll always regret? I’m not sure. Okay, definitely an opportunity lost but should it matter that much? Maybe it does. I found myself feeling for one of the first times in my life that I’d maybe missed out on something. On someone.

Not going to lie, there’s a constant differential dynamic between the excitement and thought of someone new and the security with one person. Not that I have her but taking the chance is scary, perhaps the reason that I didn’t ask the question that I should have.

I always win in my imagination but this time I lost. You might have said no to dinner, to drinks, to something more. I might never know now. I’ll probably never know now.

Don’t be afraid of missing those opportunities in your life, give them a go. Behind every bad decision or misjudgment is an opportunity that somebody wishes they had missed.

Tonight it’s easy to feel like the one who is on the sidelines, the one who has missed out.

If I missed my moment, I missed my moment. Fuck.

Say something.

@TheSamMcLeod

Each breath that you take has a thunderous sound.

The expression “Use a picture. It’s worth a thousand words.” first appeared in 1911. It was in a newspaper article quoting Arthur Brisbane, who was one of the best known American newspaper editors of the 20th century. It’s a saying that I’ve always liked but what I like more are pictures or art, that contain only words. Today someone showed me this.

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Needless to say, I love it and and agree with the words entirely.

It’s easy to take things for granted and that is something that I have been guilty of recently, something that I’m ashamed of. Just those words have made me think about how lucky we all are, life is truly magic.

It also made me stop and think about my bucket list. There are 100 things on there that I want to do in my lifetime and I intend to make sure that every single one of them happens. They’re in no particular order and I’ve never shared these before with anyone at all but here goes.

1. Get a tattoo.

2. Make a toast at a stranger’s wedding.

3. Accept a dare.

4. Go on a blind date.

5. See a dead body.

6. Ask out the girl of my dreams.

7. Attend a film premiere.

8. Visit Alcatraz.

9. Look out from the crown of the Statue of Liberty.

10. Run across the Brooklyn Bridge at sunrise.

11. Run across the Brooklyn Bridge at sunset.

12. Parachute jump from a plane.

13. Sit on the H of the Hollywood sign drinking Jack Daniels.

14. Lift the Champions League trophy.

15. Take in a game at the Nou Camp.

16. Celebrate New Year’s Eve in Times Square.

17. Write a book.

18. Go to the top of the Empire State Building.

19. Go to the Top of the Rock observatory deck.

20. Watch an NBA game at Madison Square Garden.

21. Watch an MLB game at Fenway Park.

22. See a band live in New York.

23. Visit the Library of Congress.

24. Visit Chicago.

25. Visit Boston.

26. Take a boat ride on the Bosphorus Strait.

27. Run across the Golden Gate Bridge.

28. Climb to the top of the Eiffel Tower.

29. Climb Sydney Harbour Bridge.

30. Have a meal at Ithaa Undersea Restaurant.

31. Take a train journey throughout Europe.

32. Get lost in Venice with a girlfriend.

33. Live in a different country.

34. Visit Niagara Falls.

35. Stand on the glassdeck of the Willis Tower in Chicago.

36. Gamble in Las Vegas.

37. See the Northern Lights.

38. Spend the night in a beach villa in the Maldives.

39. Visit the Red Light District in Amsterdam.

40. Walk the Grand Canyon Skywalk.

41. Learn a foreign language.

42. Fire a gun.

43. Get drunk at Oktoberfest.

44. Drink Guinness in Dublin.

45. Sleep under the stars.

46. Watch the World Cup in the host country.

47. Experience Mardi Gras in New Orleans.

48. Visit O Cristo Redentor in Rio De Janerio.

49. See a play on Broadway.

50. Donate blood.

51. Cross the Equator.

52. Wake up on Christmas morning in New York. Preferably in the style of Home Alone 2 at The Plaza Hotel!

53. Visit Arlington Cemetery.

54. Ride the Cyclone at Coney Island.

55. Ride the Rocky Mountaineer.

56. Take a cooking class from a professional chef.

57. Go to the Rio Carnival.

58. Go to the airport and take the next flight to somewhere random.

59. Complete a Man v Food challenge.

60. Ride the Ferris Wheel in Toys ‘R’ Us in Times Square.

61. Pay for a stranger’s groceries.

62. Take a train journey from the west coast of the US to the east coast.

63. Drink mescal in Mexico.

64. Try oysters.

65. Buy someone a first edition of their favourite book.

66. Take one second of video every day for a year.

67. Have a drink in the hidden bar in Grand Central Station.

68. Stand on the pitch at Celtic Park.

69. Join the mile high club. Absolute coincidence that this is the number it is!

70. Buy a drink for everyone in a bar.

71. Fly somewhere first class.

72. Start a blog.

73. Complete a round of golf in under 100 strokes.

74. Spend a night in jail.

75. Crash a wedding reception.

76. Go on holiday to Las Vegas with the guys.

77. Treat my girlfriend to front row seats to New York Fashion Week.

78. See the Hoover Dam.

79. Kiss a female celebrity.

80. Spend Christmas Day on a beach in a hot country drinking cocktails.

81. Write my will.

82. Take a holiday abroad alone.

83. Invent a cocktail.

84. Visit Harvard.

85. Order a pastrami sandwich at Katz’s Delicatessen.

86. Look for the Loch Ness Monster.

87. Visit Tokyo.

88. Go to Carnival in Venice.

89. Tell the absolute truth for 24 hours, Liar Liar style.

90. Attempt the Centurion Challenge, 100 shots of beer in 100 minutes.

91. Slide the Jumeirah Sceirah waterslide in Dubai.

92. Take the Edge Walk at the CN Tower in Toronto.

93. Send a woman a drink across the bar.

94. Eat the hottest chilli pepper in the world.

95. Dance on the piano from Big.

96. Eat at the best restaurant in the world.

97. View the hidden subway station in Grand Central Station.

98. See the Berlin Wall.

99. See the hidden City Hall station.

100. Practice 365 days of gratitude, do something nice for someone every day.

I’m 36 down, 64 to go.

There are many things that are much more important to me than this list which require my focus and attention but I think this is a fun thing to do. Needless to say, everyone that I’ve spoken to who has such a list, has differing things on there and that is how it should be. It’s an individual thing but I’m thankful that many different people have shared the first 36 things to be ticked off.

I’m incredibly excited to see who will share the experiences still to come.

This is street radio for unsung heroes..

Many of you will know that I love a holiday. I enjoy my job greatly but the thought of getting away on holiday always appeals.

When getting away, there is always a particular song that signifies or makes my holiday, surely everyone has the same though?

My favourite city in the world is New York. I’ve been there many times, every year for the last six years, sometimes more than once a year, and it never disappoints.

Songs will randomly come on shuffle that will remind me of my travels to The Big Apple. Those songs include Karaoke by Drake, New York (Saint In The City) by The Academy Is, 212, by Azealia Banks, Marching Bands Of Manhattan by Death Cab For Cutie and Pictures Of You by The Last Goodnight. Check them all out, they are all worth a listen.

This year, I’m heading to Chicago. The song? Enjoy it, Common is one of my favourite artists, he truly knows how to connect with the people.

PS. I’ll also fit in a New York trip whilst I’m stateside!